For most of my life, I have had an issue with negative/distorted thinking. Actually, it's safe to say that I've done this for all of my life. Thankfully, I've had therapists who have taught me to identify when my thoughts are distorted. Once I've done that, I make an attempt to change my perception to one that is more open and/or based in reality. Over time, my brain will "reprogram" itself so that the negative perceptions are no longer the default response. This is the overall method and purpose of cognitive behavioral therapy. My struggles have always related to insecurities about my appearance and how my personality is received. The majority of my life I have lived under the belief and perception that I'm a vacuum of sex appeal and charisma. Obviously, this is not a realistic perspective of myself. I've received compliments on numerous occasions from old ladies and women that I have zero interest in. I'm joking... but I'm not joking . Tha...